In one of my subscriptions boxes this month (one day i will tell you which ones I receive and why I have chosen to buy these particular boxes on a regular basis) I received a small card with a simple bracelet wrapped around it. On this bracelet hung a pineapple charm. The gist of the card said to make a wish while holding the bracelet and then put the bracelet on. Once the bracelet fell off, your wish would come true.
It was a simple string bracelet with two little knots that you could adjust the size of the bracelet. It wasn’t meant to be sturdy. It was meant to come off easily. No big deal, right?
Well, some days I am extremely literal and I have some extreme tunnel vision.
I had it set in my head that the bracelet had to fall off and VANISH for the wish to come true.
I don’t know why. I lost my watch the other day. It took my husband going through the car looking for something else to find my watch…after over a week. I had simply assumed after three days that I had worn it out and since i knew I had taken it off in the car, I figured when I opened the car door, my watch had dropped out of my pocket, or maybe it had fallen to the floor of the car and i randomly kicked it out of the car when I got out or something. No big deal. At least not for me.
I guess I somehow expected the bracelet to do something similar. Fall off randomly. Fall away while we were out and about or something. And it would simply disappear from my sight and that’s when my wish would actually come true.
After three days of wearing said bracelet, it fell off. I didn’t notice. Until I saw it on the floor by my computer chair. So I grumbled because … there it was. It had not done the job and followed “directions”–it had not disappeared. I picked it up, retied the knots so they would be a bit more secure and went on my way.
The next day, the darn thing fell off again…and my yo found it and brought it to me.
More grumbling from me after he left and I tied that bracelet back on even tighter.
As I was drifting off to sleep, I kept hearing…why won’t you let the magic work? Why can’t you trust the magic? Why can’t you trust the process?
I went to sleep and let my subconscious deal with it overnight.
I woke up in the morning with the image of this joke seared into my brain:
A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help.
Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, “Jump in, I can save you.”
The stranded fellow shouted back, “No, it’s OK, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me.”
So the rowboat went on.
Then a motorboat came by. “The fellow in the motorboat shouted, “Jump in, I can save you.”
To this the stranded man said, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So the motorboat went on.
Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, “Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety.”
To this the stranded man again replied, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So the helicopter reluctantly flew away.
Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man drowned. He went to Heaven. He finally got his chance to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he exclaimed, “I had faith in you but you didn’t save me, you let me drown. I don’t understand why!”
To this God replied, “I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you expect?”
My bracelet had fallen off. The magic had taken effect. The problem was me.
I had been so stuck on HOW the magic was supposed to work, HOW this little bracelet was supposed to do its job, I didn’t leave room for the magic to actually work its own way, or for the bracelet to do its job the only way it knew how.
It has been an interesting lesson in how to trust the process, how to trust things going on around me, how to step back and let others do their jobs the way they do their jobs–not the way I think they ought to do their jobs.
I am still learning how to handle my assumptions and my judgments. What about you?
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